The RZNGMEN Show

”Exposed” - pt 1

What are we showing the world, versus what do we think we're showing?  It should be the same, but for many, it's different.  That difference matters.  It leads to misunderstandings, frustrations, and regret.  We have to find out what matters to us, and live that out consciously.  It takes effort, and intentionality.  This is something that I want my sons to learn early in life.  They should not need to correct this 30, 50, or more years in.  Do you know if you're sending the message that you truly want sent?  Ask someone who you've allowed to know you and you'll find out.
 
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“SLUR: Speak Life Undo Racism” - p2

The Boyz and I finish our discussion about race, racial slurs, and the concept of S.L.U.R:  Speak Life Undo Racism. It was an awesome topic to speak with my sons about.  As parents, we need to do this more than just when the lights are brightest and the streams are going.  This is an every that thing.  We need to remain vigilant and attentive to their thought and needs.  If we aren't the world is.  The world view is not one that is healthy, nor do I want my children's children's children to have.
 
Information used in this episode:
SLUR:  Speak Life Undo Racism
SLUR:  Speak Life Undo Rhetoric
SLUR:  Speak Life Undo Reasons that keep us apart
Proverbs 22:6 TPT - Dedicate your children to God    and point them in the way that they should go,    and the values they’ve learned from you will be with them for life.
1 Peter 4:8 TPT - Above all, constantly echo God’s intense love for one another, for love will be a canopy over a multitude of sins
KTLA5: https://ktla.com/news/local-news/moreno-valley-cheerleaders-say-they-were-targeted-with-racial-slurs-at-game-against-temecula-valley-hs/
Temecula Patch:   https://patch.com/california/temecula/temecula-valley-hs-responds-allegations-racial-slurs
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

"SLUR: Speak Life Undo Racism" - p1

Racial SLURs seem to be so commonplace in today's society.  But how is that possible?  Home training, that's how.  One of my sons said that it was the lack of good or any home training.  The sad part is, good, bad, or without, training still training.  What we model out for our children is what they learn and imitate.  If you want to get a view your parenting, listen to your children speak.  Watch then live and interact with their friends.  Check their social media.  Especially their fake accounts used to troll people.  Afraid of what you'll see?  Many of us parents should be.
 
I this episode, we step away from tell our past and deal with out present and future.  It was a bit uncomfortable at point in our conversation.  Why?  Because it was out truth that we don't normally discuss outside our home.  In this cancel culture, speak something that is unpopular can have it's consequences.  But, the truth will make us free.  The key is to know the truth.  So much information comes from unqualified sources.  People just typing or saying something so of then that they would never say to or about the intended person if they were face-to-face.  I am certain, many of those words would never have crossed their minds with the cyber distance between them providing their confidence to speak so disrespectfully.  I am not speaking against our right to freedom of speech.  What I'm saying is that it's not what you say in so many cases, but rather how you say it.  We need to Speak Life and Undo Racism, Rhetoric, Reasons that separate us, etc.  We need to return to our first love and teach love.  That will cover a multitude of evils/sins.
 
Information used in this episode:
SLUR:  Speak Life Undo Racism
SLUR:  Speak Life Undo Rhetoric
SLUR:  Speak Life Undo Reasons that keep us apart
Proverbs 22:6 TPT - Dedicate your children to God    and point them in the way that they should go,    and the values they’ve learned from you will be with them for life.
1 Peter 4:8 TPT - Above all, constantly echo God’s intense love for one another, for love will be a canopy over a multitude of sins
KTLA5: https://ktla.com/news/local-news/moreno-valley-cheerleaders-say-they-were-targeted-with-racial-slurs-at-game-against-temecula-valley-hs/
Temecula Patch:   https://patch.com/california/temecula/temecula-valley-hs-responds-allegations-racial-slurs
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

Responsibility - p2

The 2021/2022 school year is upon us.  Those that are fortunate to escape school, still can't avoid responsibility some person, place or thing.  It is up to us to be ready, patient, consistent.  Our children need us.  We need us.  Besides, we're adult in the relationship.  This doesn't mean that we don't get mad or disappointed in our children.  It means that we express it, deal with it, and move on from it.  If we know better we should do better.  If you've listened to The RZNGMEN Show any length of time, then I know you know better. So it's time to do better.
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

Responsibility

Responsibility can be defined as the state or fact of being responsible, answerable, or accountable for something within one's power, control, or management (Dictionary.com: https://www.dictionary.com/browse/responsibility).  We all need to be responsible for at least ourselves.  If we're going to be a parent, then we're going to need to learn to be responsible for something else before it has to be someone else.  Life changing experiences occur when we learn to consider someone else's wellbeing above our own.  This is what my youngest sons are learning now with their 2 young puppies.  Listen in as they share what they've learned in a very short time.  Their lives have changed for better to the point that even they have notice.  As a dad, I could not ask for too much more.  There aren't many times as parent that I get to experience the outcome of a tough lesson that I'm trying to teach.  Here, lesson learned.  This one however, will continue to teach for years to come.
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

What are you afraid of? - pt 2

We continue our conversation about what we're afraid of.  I am removing "Terrified" from our vocabulary and replacing it with "Terridependence".  "Terri-dependence" or being "Terri-dependent" is casting our cares on God, because he cares for us.  1 Peter 5:7 TPT - If you bow low in God’s awesome presence, he will eventually exalt you as you leave the timing in his hands. Pour out all your worries and stress upon him and leave them there, for he always tenderly cares for you.  There's peace and freedom in doing this.  I challenge everyone to try being "Terri-dependent.  
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

What are you afraid of?

What you afraid of?  Ever think about why?  My sons and I talk about this during this episode.  I learned a lot.  I know they did because I could see it in their eyes.  I know that we need to do video for this show moving forward.  I need you all to see what I see.  I need them to see what I see.  There's so much learning when we listen.  Are you listening?
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

Summer Rule - pt. 2

Our summer is full swing.  Inside, outside, and upside down.  This week we talk about what distance learning has done to us, gaps in our learning, and expectations for the upcoming year.  We even talk about how the death of their mother prepared them for what we've experienced the past year or so.  After trauma of losing their mother, everything else is easy to adjust to and deal with.  Even COVID.  I'm not saying that to provoke any more trauma, but the truth is that enemy is always after us anyway.  Any on the days that he isn't, we're struggling with ourselves anyway.  It can often feel the same sadly enough.  Join us on The RZNGMEN Show.  C'mon.  Laugh, cry, and grow with us.
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

Summer Rules

Summertime is our favorite time of the year.  Especially since so many areas are opening up again.  There are options that weren't an option a year ago.  But, moment of everyday can't be playtime.  Nice try, but it's not healthy, realistic, or positive.  Oh, just me huh?  OK.  Before fun can be had with electronics, there are some things that need to be done.  I encourage my sons to get the tasks done first, then I can't say much about what they do with the rest of their day.  Join us as we discuss how that looks and feels in our home.  Do they like it?  Hate it?  Listen to what they have to say about our Summer Rules.  
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

What fatherhood means to me - pt 2

Tough love today from my sons for parents.  Love is still love nonetheless.  We need to listen to our children.  They are repeating what we say to them.  Hmm... maybe that's why some parents don't want to hear them.  Just me?  OK.  I hope it's not just me try get and keep my family together.   
 
Here are some tools that my sons and I have useful:
Listen without judgment:  Every wants and needs to be heard
Create a safe place for you children to ask questions and interact.  We may not always like or agree with the questions or comments made, but the should be made in the confines of our own home.  This will allow for open dialog.  Helps everyone to get on the same page.
Apologize when you're wrong:  No one's always right, or wrong.  Apologize sincerely, correct the behavior, and keep is moving'.  In other words:  "Clean up your side of the street"
No judgement:  Speak life if every circumstance, especially when it hard.  Life and death is in the power of the tongue.  It is not what you say, but how you say it that counts.
Give everyone a break:  Extend grace.  Sometimes people have bad days.  Sometimes we have bad days.  We need to be known for who we are, not for the moment we messed up.
Be open and willing to change:  Life's about how we adjust to changing circumstances.  Changes are going to come.  How we respond to them determines how far, and where we go.
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio.