The RZNGMEN Show

What fatherhood means to me

What does being a father mean to?  Is it important?  Do you feel some kinda way when you think about the concept of a father?  Being a father has been my primary job over the past 8 years.  I had to learn how to shepherd by son's hearts.  I had to heal, and help them heal.  I had to lead, and I listen.  I couldn't afford to lose anything or anyone else.  But, that was out of my hands.  Thankfully, I have not physically lost any of my sons, but I have lost family and people I thought were friends.  I wanted my sons, and men, to know that if I could make it, anyone can.  I wanted to bring a message of hope to men.  More importantly, I want men to have tools to help them heal, learn, and grow into the fully developed men they were intended.  It's a process.  We're all works in process.  We have to trust it.  Trust the process.  
 
Here are some tools that my sons and I have useful:
Listen without judgment:  Every wants and needs to be heard
Create a safe place for you children to ask questions and interact.  We may not always like or agree with the questions or comments made, but the should be made in the confines of our own home.  This will allow for open dialog.  Helps everyone to get on the same page.
Apologize when you're wrong:  No one's always right, or wrong.  Apologize sincerely, correct the behavior, and keep is moving'.  In other words:  "Clean up your side of the street"
No judgement:  Speak life if every circumstance, especially when it hard.  Life and death is in the power of the tongue.  It is not what you say, but how you say it that counts.
Give everyone a break:  Extend grace.  Sometimes people have bad days.  Sometimes we have bad days.  We need to be known for who we are, not for the moment we messed up.
Be open and willing to change:  Life's about how we adjust to changing circumstances.  Changes are going to come.  How we respond to them determines how far, and where we go.
 
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Our Story: Downplay or Belief

I often find that I downplay my abilities.  What I do is not as good everyone else.  In some cases, true, it's not.  But, not every case.  I can do all things through give me strength.  I can speak the things into my life that are not currently not as though they already are.  It's about perspective.  It's about out belief in who and whose we are.  Once we believe, it changes everything.  
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

"Our Story" - wk 8

Focusing on the miracles of God keeps us moving forward and focused what's important.  God's important.  His plan for us is important.  The steps He has ordered for us are perfect, though they may feel bananas and outrageous.  Perfect none the less.  My sons and I have been through a heck of a lot, but we don't look like what we've been through.  There's so much healing we've been through.  So much grace we've shown.  Even more mercy.  
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

Our Story: “What Mother’s Day means to us” - pt3

Looking back over our life, we had some good days, and some really, really tough ones too.  But, if we didn't go through them all, we would never be right where we are today.  These lessons have helped us realize that the pressure and heat we've been under over these past years is shaping us into who and what God wants us to be.  We just need to trust Him and his process.  We can punch out early.  He's not finished with us yet.  Coal only becomes a diamond if it remains under pressure and heat over the required time.  I don't want to have gone through all of this just to burnout like coal.  I want to reflect God's love and glory like a finely cut diamond.
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

Our Story: “What Mother’s Day means to us” - pt 2

My 4 youngest and I continue our conversation about life without their mother.  We talk about their feelings about me dating and even the 1st time Rhyen stopped breathing at out next door neighbors house.  Join us as we share our story of healing.
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

Our Story: "What Mother's Day means to us" - pt 1

So many take everyday for granted.  Like we're entitled to an unlimited supply.  Is there ever enough?  No, but we have not choice as to how much time we get.  We do however have a choice as to what we do with every moment we do have.  We've learned that painful lesson first hand.  Join us as we talk through our grief and some our experiences over the past 8 years with ur grief.
 
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

Our Story: "That 1st year" - part 3 cont'd

We continue our conversation with Jaxen, Evan, and Caeden.  Each sharing our memories and desperately trying to put the missing pieces of our broke memories together.  What one of us knows, the others don't.  Some even got the answers to questions that they've always wanted to ask and get answered.  Healing is a process, not a destination.   
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

Our Story: "That 1st year" - pt 3

I'm joined this week by Jaxen and Evan.  They were 4 and 6 when their mom died.  There was a point that we could have just stopped and given up on this project.  We could have just decided to leave our pain and thoughts buried inside.  But, we wouldn't get free if we did that.  I want to be free.  Most of all, I want me sons to be free.  I want you to be free too.  Join us on our journey through freedom.  
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

Our Story: "That 1st year" - pt.2

Hearing your life told through someone else's voice is so wild.  How did they know that?  When did you see this?  How did I live through what I just said?  Those are the questions I'm left asking.  But, I know it was nothing but the grace of Almighty God that we are here right now, sharing Our Story.  Healed by the blood of The Lamb and power of our testimony.  
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio. 

Our Story: “That 1st year” - pt1

I knew this day would come when we’d tell our story.  But, I didn’t know we’d tell it to each other 1st.  Join my sons, Caeden and Rhyen, and I as we begin sharing our story of loss to liberty from each of our own perspectives.  I’m learning a lot about myself and my sons during this process.  It’s such a blessing.  You won’t want to miss it.
Radio show airs at 11 a.m. Pacific / 2 p.m Eastern on WKBY 1080 AM (Chatham, VA) and www.wkby1080.net
The RZNGMEN Show can also be heard on Spotify, iTunes, and iHeart Radio.